A Long-Distance Leap for Love

Roberta met Josh through one of her best friends. They broadened their relationship on Myspace and LiveJournal, where she would comment and post blogs.

“I’d post about being single in Los Angeles and living on your own without a roommate for the first time,” she said. “He started reading my blogs because they were funny, and he thought my user picture was cute. He said to my friend, ‘Who is this girl?'”

Before long, the two started emailing, and it was interesting, innocent and pure. He lived 2,000 miles away so Roberta thought, “This guy can’t hurt me, so I am just going to have fun.”

Then they decided to connect over a cal. In a “conversation that lasted forever,” Roberta started to develop feelings for Josh.

“We just laughed, and we tried to top each others’ jokes,” she said. “Every time I hung up the phone I wanted to call him back. I was so giddy and school girlish.”

Soon enough, the long distance calls made the distance between them more and more unbearable, and they decided to meet.

Roberta had been planning a trip to Atlanta, where Josh lived, in October, but he said he wanted to meet her sooner. A mutual friend was coming to visit so Roberta said, “Why don’t you piggy back on that trip and that way if it doesn’t work out and our peak was on the phone, you won’t be alone in a big city?”

Their first meeting was better than expected. He had a bunch of pink daisies for her, and their friends were as excited for them to meet as they were. He saw her and immediately hugged her tight.

“I was so nervous for some reason,” she said. “I felt like I had known this person my whole life. It was what I expected and 100 percent not what I expected at the same time. It was the weirdest, best feeling ever.”

Coming together felt completely natural, but the reality was that their lives were thousands of miles apart. To be together, one of them had to move across the country.

Roberta decided to say so long to Southern California, where she’d lived her entire life, and head to Atlanta… all in the name of love.

“I had to do what was best for me, I had to live for me now,” Roberta said. “I can live anywhere. You can always find your favorite pizza joint, park, bar, your favorite everything. It just takes time.”

Roberta had a best friend who lived in Atlanta as well, and she found that everyone in the South was incredibly nice. Josh made it a lot easier for her because he prepped everyone. Meeting all his friends was the easy part.

“I wasn’t nervous because I was like, ‘If they love you, I will love them. That is just the way it is,'” she said.

Roberta said moving across the country was one of the best decisions she ever made. Not only is she saving money on long distance phone bills, but her and Josh have really grown together as a couple.

“The last time I went to visit L.A., I missed my friends, I missed my bed, I missed Josh, I missed my dog, I missed the weather, I missed everything,” Roberta said. “I missed the familiarity of my own thing. I am not a native Georgian, but this is where I belong now.”

If you’re trying to make long distance love last or thinking of making the move to togetherness, take a look at the resources below:

Long Distance Lovin
Learn how to be sensible and realistic in the face of a long distance relationship.

Caring, Packaged
Try these 10 tips for cultivating a strong bond across a multitude of miles.

Charming, But Single
This jaded-by-love Southern Belle likes both her drinks and her men tall.

Cohabitation Nation
Read “Happily Un-Married,” a self-proclaimed fitness guide for people who live together-or are just thinking about it.

On the Move
Sylvia Shipp brings up the issues, offers solutions and suggests bond-building activities for all the long distance lovers out there.

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