From pregnant to parent

When Vanessa found out she was pregnant, it triggered a roller coaster of emotions for her.

The ride began on New Years Day. After taking a pregnancy test she said to her husband, “Happy New Year. Guess what’s going to be happening this year?” He was floored and very nervous as he started going through the list of “Can we afford this?” and “Should we be doing that?” As the idea grew on him, though, the fears and uncertainty turned to excitement.

Vanessa was looking forward to being pregnant and having a baby as well, but from time to time she would feel a real sense of anxiety over whether or not she was ready to become a mom.

“I was in denail about the whole giving birth thing,” she said.

Five days past her due date, Vanessa’s doctors decided it was time to induce. They gave her a planned epidural and killed time playing games and watching TV with her husband and best friend.

“It hardly felt like labor, and then it came time to start pushing,” she said. “That’s when the epidural starting wearing off — perfect timing. I pushed for a few hours, a part of a day. You can do anything for a part of a day.”

Vanessa considers herself to be a little bit of a Type-A organized person and worried that that she was going to try and have everything be rigid, but said it actually ended up being kind of natural for her to just go with the flow.

“Instead of getting anxious and worked up, it was better to just roll with it, to take cues from the baby,” Vanessa said. “My husband was a huge support in that, and we became a team. We didn’t worry too much about if we were doing this right or that right. If you just relax and go with it, it will go well.”

Take a second to check out these 10 tips to help you adjust to becoming a new mom or these other resources if you’re on a journey from pregnant to parent. Good luck!

MORE TIPS & TOOLS

A Virtual Doctor’s Office
You’re pediatrician has all the answers your co-pay can get you, but if you’re looking for some free peace of mind, ask an expert from the Pampers Parenting Institute.

Exceeding Your Expectations
At Pregnancy.org, get reassurance and information to make the next nine months a walk in the park.

Some Friendly Advice
Rebecca Odes and Ceridwen Morris have been in various stages of pregnancy or new momdom for 5 years running. The two friends created a go-to site offering decent, open-minded and agenda-free advice at The New Mom.

Mommy Amusement
See what Capessa blogger and mother of three Erin Monroe does in her spare time at Finding Yourself.

Mommy Needs a Cocktail
Sip on the little moments with Kristen, mom to two and the rising queen of hilarious. With handmade accessories.

Getting through My Mommy Meltdown

The morning of Leiah’s mommy meltdown was much like all the other mornings she’d had since giving birth to her son Ben. She was going on several short bursts of sleep and wondering when it’d be possible to take a shower. But for some reason, that day it all seemed like way too much.

“Having the mommy meltdown really put things in perspective for me,” Leiah says now. “Just because you become a mom, you don’t become a super hero and you don’t get magic powers. You can’t deny that you are only capable of only doing so much. I had to modify my life and really get into a routine.”

leiahbenLeiah said that since Ben was born, she’s been on “mommy time”, living her days go in two- or three-hour increments, depending on when Ben eats. This also includes getting sleep in chunks instead of getting a full night’s rest.

“Luckily my child allowed me to be able to get on a routine where I could sleep between his feedings at night, and then I’d get up around noon and eat something while he is asleep,” she said. “From noon until eight or nine at night, I function like a normal person.”

She and Ben’s father Matt are working on creating a schedule now that allows her to feed Ben and pump milk through the day. Matt will take over the evening feedings so that Leiah can sleep, then she’ll feed him through the night.

Taking care of yourself is essential to being a good mother, Leiah explained. Although at times putting yourself first can feel selfish, she said, it’s all a part of motherhood.

MORE TIPS & TOOLS

Some Friendly Advice
Rebecca Odes and Ceridwen Morris have been in various stages of pregnancy or new momdom for 5 years running. The two friends created a go-to site offering decent, open-minded and agenda-free advice at The New Mom.

Count to 10
Take a second to check out these 10 tips to help you stave off your Mommy Meltdown.

Your New Best Friend
Debra Gilbert Rosenberg has gone three rounds with new mom mania, which is why her book, the New Mom’s Companion: Care for Yourself While You Care for Your Newborn, comes straight from the heart and speaks right to the minds of the recently blessed.

A Virtual Doctor’s Office
You’re pediatrician has all the answers your co-pay can get you, but if you’re looking for some free peace of mind, ask an expert from the Pampers Parenting Institute.

When Mama’s Happy
To keep mamas from getting baby brain, the gals at Mamazine have given birth to a crafty outlet for creative expression. Feel like a grown-up even though you’re all about baby.

Nurse in private or public?

The great nursing debate rages on, despite breast feeding sit ins and loads of lactivism. We went to talk to some real women to see how they felt about breast feeding in public and here’s what they had to say.

So what do you think? As moms and women, are you put in an awkward place when you see a boob in public or are you empowered and proud?

A Lactation Education
Get news, product information, how-to videos and a hearty laugh from the women of Breastfeeding.com.

Nursing Out Loud
Jennifer Laycock stays abreast of the issues and offers insights, tips and a bit of personal perspective in her blog The Lactivist.

Hungry for History?
Jennifer James, author of the Black Breastfeeding Blog, scours the Library of Congress for photographs of breastfeeding mothers through the ages.

Pumping in Practice
Did you know that the FDA regulates breast pumps? And did you know that they have an entire site dedicated to helping moms choose and use breast pumps? Well, now you do.

Weaning the War
When to wean, that is the post-breastfeeding question. At Kids Health, learn the signs that your baby is ready for solids and how to help them make the shift.

Some Friendly Advice
Rebecca Odes and Ceridwen Morris have been in various stages of pregnancy or new momdom for 5 years running. The two friends created a go-to site offering decent, open-minded and agenda-free advice at The New Mom.