Real Moms Talk: cry it out or comfort?

Your angel falls asleep in your arms and you delicately lay her down in her crib. She grunts and sniffles, you pat her bottom and whisper, “Shhhh.” She drifts off again… for 10 minutes.

Your mother bear kicks in and says she needs you. Your consideration for your neighbors tells you to pick her up and stop her from crying. Your husband reminds you that he’d prefer to sleep without her adorable little toes in his spine. What do you do?

We checked in with moms to see which they prefer — crying it out or comforting — and how they keep whatever they do consistent with real life.

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What mommy means

When you’re out and about and you see another mother, for whatever reason, there’s an instant connection. You know, that glimpse and half smile you give to a woman whose changing a diaper or that accidental buffer we form around pregnant women in crowds.

As different as our lives may be, and unique and special as our own children are, there is something about being a mommy that is almost cliche it’s so universal.

Only moms understand what mommy means and that to earn the privilege of the title means you’ve made the shift from selfish to willing to die for another human being without ever really considering it.

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Some Friendly Advice
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What mommy means

When you’re out and about and you see another mother, for whatever reason, there’s an instant connection. You know, that glimpse and half smile you give to a woman whose changing a diaper or that accidental buffer we form around pregnant women in crowds.

As different as our lives may be, and unique and special as our own children are, there is something about being a mommy that is almost cliche it’s so universal.

Only moms understand what mommy means and that to earn the privilege of the title means you’ve made the shift from selfish to willing to die for another human being without ever really considering it.

MORE TIPS & TOOLS

Mission Impossible
Give up on being mother of the year (they think you already are) and relish in your perfect flaws at Imperfect Parent.

Some Friendly Advice
Rebecca Odes and Ceridwen Morris have been in various stages of pregnancy or new momdom for 5 years running. The two friends created a go-to site offering decent, open-minded and agenda-free advice at The New Mom.

Productive Parenting
From infants to young adults and everything tween, Parenting.org offers tips and advice to help your child be all you wish you could have been and all she is capable of.

A Lactation Education
Get news, product information, how-to videos and a hearty laugh from the women of Breastfeeding.com.

Is the ‘family bed’ good or bad?

A middle of the night cry from the baby’s room has you shuffling through the dark to feed your newborn. You reach into the crib, drunk from exhaustion, and think, “Why not just bring him to bed with me?”

Yeah, why not?

Some people think that co-sleeping may create codependent kids while others think it makes the family a more solid unit. And how does having a little one sharing the marital bed factor into intimacy with your partner?

When we want to know something, we go out and ask real women what they think.

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Productive Parenting
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A Lactation Education
Get news, product information, how-to videos and a hearty laugh from the women of Breastfeeding.com.

Childbirth: Go natural or get drugged?

Usually as soon as the doctor tells you you’re pregnant, something in your gut wells up and screams “I’M GOING NATURAL” or “GIVE ME DRUGS!”

We like to think of that as your first bout of motherly instinct.

With doulas and midwives gaining popularity and credibility and women like Ricki Lake making documentaries on the business of childbirth, it’s tough to know which way to go.

Capessa has brought in the experts — real moms who have given birth — to see what worked for them and why. Hopefully hearing how other women did it will make listening to your gut a little easier.

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Mission Impossible
Give up on being mother of the year (they think you already are) and relish in your perfect flaws at Imperfect Parent.

Productive Parenting
From infants to young adults and everything tween, Parenting.org offers tips and advice to help your child be all you wish you could have been and all she is capable of.

A Lactation Education
Get news, product information, how-to videos and a hearty laugh from the women of Breastfeeding.com.